Don't mean 2 sound cocky or maybe I do LOL, but the game... on Twitpic

Don't mean 2 sound cocky or maybe I do LOL, but the game... on Twitpic

OH SNAP!! Remember That BIG Girl On MTV . . . Chelsea Settles . . . Well She Just Lost 100 POUNDS!! (Before And After Pics) - MediaTakeOut.com™ 2011

OH SNAP!! Remember That BIG Girl On MTV . . . Chelsea Settles . . . Well She Just Lost 100 POUNDS!! (Before And After Pics) - MediaTakeOut.com™ 2011

Police clashes mar Occupy Wall Street protests By AMY WESTFELDT and COLLEEN LONG | AP

NEW YORK (AP) — Thousands of demonstrators took to the streets, the New York Stock Exchange and the subways to raise their voices against what they say is corporate excess.

But since police in riot helmets, batons and riot shields ousted them from their two-month encampments, Occupy Wall Street protesters singled out officers as another enemy, saying their crowd control tactics were an excessive, chilling use of force against free speech.

"The police played their role. I wouldn't call it respectful," said Danny Shaw, 33, on Thursday in a day of protests across the country to mark the two-month anniversary of the movement against what demonstrators say is economic inequality.

Tear gas in Oakland, Calif., pepper spray that hit an 84-year-old Seattle woman in the face and hundreds of arrests of demonstrators and journalists at Occupy protests across the U.S. this week shone the spotlight on the varying crowd control tactics of police, most who used helmets and riot gear as they broke up encampments in New York and other cities.

"Police Brutality," protesters' signs blared. New York officials have called for investigations of the police raid of Zuccotti Park in lower Manhattan early Tuesday.

Experts on policing say departments have used necessary tactics to control unpredictable, sometimes violent protesters, and that the police haven't reached the stages yet of full riot protection.

"I don't think they're rioting at Occupy Wall Street, not yet, but they are getting out of control," said Maki Haberfeld, a professor of police studies at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York. "If they were rioting, you would see much more riot gear" like sonic devices and high-powered weapons, she said.

But the images that have played across the country have been disconcerting to some: 84-year-old Dorli Rainey's face dripping with pepper spray and the liquid used to treat it, and police and protesters pushing each other in New York Thursday over metal barricades in downtown Manhattan.

"When somebody puts their hands on somebody itself, it never looks right," Haberfeld said. "But this is what they're allowed to do. ... It is truly not excessive and I am surprised by how not excessive it is."

The demonstrations Thursday — in such cities as Los Angeles, Boston, Las Vegas, Washington and Portland, Ore. — were for the most part peaceful. But at least 300 people were arrested in New York and dozens were arrested elsewhere, including five on charges they assaulted police officers by throwing liquid into several officers' faces and tossing glass at another.

"We will assure that everyone has the right to exercise their First Amendment rights," Mayor Michael Bloomberg said Thursday after visiting one hospitalized officer who needed 20 stitches on his hand. But "if anyone's actions cross the line and threaten the health and safety of others including our first responders, we will respond accordingly."

Chanting "All day, all week, shut down Wall Street," more than 1,000 protesters gathered near the New York Stock Exchange and sat down in several intersections. A dozen metal sleeves intended to lock protesters to fixtures on the street were confiscated, police said. Several thousand jammed Manhattan's Foley Square Thursday evening and marched to the Brooklyn Bridge.

Several weeks ago, an attempt to march across the bridge drew the first significant international attention to the Occupy movement as more than 700 people were arrested.

In Seattle on Thursday, hundreds of Occupy Seattle and labor demonstrators shut down the University Bridge. Traffic was snarled as protesters from two different rallies held marches as part of a national day of action demanding jobs.

In Los Angeles, helmeted police equipped with batons surrounded the base of a bank tower but the protest remained peaceful. Several hundred Occupy sympathizers marched to the Bank of America Plaza in downtown Los Angeles, with some setting up tents on a lawn. Police arrested two dozen people after they sat down in a street during a peaceful rally by hundreds of people organized by labor groups who had a permit.

Authorities cleared an encampment set up by Occupy protesters on the University of California, Berkeley campus; about 150 police officers and deputies in riot gear.

Police arrested 21 demonstrators in Las Vegas, and 20 were led away in plastic handcuffs in Portland, Ore., for sitting down on a bridge. At least a dozen were arrested in St. Louis after they sat down cross-legged and locked arms in an attempt to block a bridge over the Mississippi River.

Several of the demonstrations coincided with an event planned months earlier by a coalition of unions and liberal groups, including Moveon.org and the Service Employees International Union, in which out-of-work people walked over bridges in several cities to protest high unemployment.

The street demonstrations also marked two months since the Occupy movement sprang to life in New York on Sept. 17. They were planned well before police raided a number of encampments over the past few days, but were seen by some activists as a way to demonstrate their resolve in the wake of the crackdown.

Thursday's demonstrations around Wall Street brought taxis and delivery trucks to a halt, but police were largely effective at keeping the protests confined to just a few blocks.

Officers allowed Wall Street workers through the barricades, but only after checking their IDs.

Live television shots Thursday showed waves of police and protesters shoving back metal barricades set up to separate the protest from the public in downtown Manhattan. Some of the police hit protesters as they resisted arrest.

Emmanuel Pardilla, 20, a political science and history major at Fordham University in New York, said the heavy police presence "added to the fear tactic."

Haberfeld and other policing experts said the crowd control was aggressive, but not excessive. But First Amendment experts said that every interaction with demonstrators, particularly when televised nationally, can thwart the goal of protests and discourage others from joining.

"That's really is terribly inhibiting," said New York attorney Herald Fahringer. "Because people say, 'Gee, well, I don't want to go out there and join the protest if I run the risk of getting hit over the head with a billy

Mother of Sandusky's adopted son speaks out!

The birth mother of Jerry Sandusky's youngest adopted child has come forward saying she believes the former Penn State coach led her son on a path of self-destruction and that she contacted authorities years ago about her son's safety.

Debra Long told ABC News in an exclusive interview that sharing her now 33-year-old son Matt with Sandusky had been a nightmare after the coach became the boy's guardian via foster care in 1995. Long says that she watched as her child became enamored with the local hero and then increasingly frightened by Sandusky's behavior.

"It was Jerry Sandusky, you know? Any 10-year-old kid is gonna be impressed by Penn State football," Long said. "And then it was the gifts. You know, money and clothing and whatever … It was as if Jerry owned Matthew."

Sandusky entered the lives of the Longs as a mentor when Matt was 10 years old, via The Second Mile charity for at-risk youth, which the former Penn State defensive coordinator founded. When Matt was placed in juvenile hall after he set fire to a barn in 1995, he soon entered the Sandusky home as a foster child. He was adopted by Sandusky as an adult at age 18.

Matt Sandusky, now 33, is not named as one of the 10 victims in the grand jury presentment outlining the charges against the coach. He insists he was not abused by his foster father.

But Debra Long says that the once-welcome Sandusky soon became a source of fear for her son, as he would take the boy out of school when he was 15 years old, unbeknownst to her.

"My son was afraid of Jerry. If Jerry said don't talk, he didn't talk. I would sit back and watch when Jerry would show up, how excited Matt was," she said. "And then, as time went on, I would watch the same kid hide behind the bedroom door and say, 'Mom, tell him I'm not home.'"

Long believes that exposure to Sandusky was what made her once-quiet son lash out, and eventually fall into the coach's hands.

"It wasn't until Jerry came into the picture that Matt started acting out in school. Matt ended up burning down a barn with another youth, you know -- it wasn't until Jerry came into the picture … that mentor turned him from the quiet, good kid into -- what Jerry could use to take him."

Four months after moving into the Sandusky's home Matt attempted suicide, along with another girl who was staying in the house, according to a report in the Patriot-News. After the suicide attempt, Terry L. Trude, a school-based probation officer, wrote a letter to a local judge asking that Matt's care at the Sandusky home be reviewed.

"The probation department has some serious concerns about the juvenile's safety and his current progress in placement with the Sandusky family," Trude wrote.

The adoption file for Matt Sandusky contains letters from Long to officials and a Centre County judge expressing concern for her son, who she was allowed to visit only one-half day per month while he was in Sandusky's care.

Matt Sandusky – who is one of five boys adopted by Sandusky and his wife -- still supports Jerry after he was arrested on charges of 40 counts of sexual assault with 10 minor boys over 15 years. Matt even brought his children to visit Sandusky after his Nov. 5 arrest.

But the mother of Matt's kids immediately went to court to obtain an order preventing Sandusky from being alone with her children. By court order Sandusky is now not allowed unsupervised contact or overnight visits with his grandchildren. Alleged Victims Ready for Court

In the aftermath of Jerry Sandusky's unexpected interview on "Rock Center" with Bob Costas on Monday night, a number of witnesses are now ready and willing to testify in court that they were sexually assaulted by the coach.

A second boy has said that he is now ready to testify in court, according to Harrisburg attorney Ben Andreozzi, who is representing the boy. According to Andreozzi , the alleged victim called him after Sandusky gave the controversial interview on Monday.

"He has decided to dig in his heels. He's not going anywhere. He fully intends to testify," Andreozzi said.

In a statement issued Wednesday, Andreozzi said Sandusky "elected to re-victimize these young men at a time when they should be healing," and said his client was "disappointed" by Sandusky's comments.

"I think he would like Mr. Sandusky to assume responsibility for the horrible acts he committed on him," Andreozzi said.

Another boy known to be planning to testify is one known as "Victim 1" in the indictment; he is the boy who first came forward to authorities to allege abuse at the hands of Sandusky. The boy has already told his story to the grand jury and is anxious to tell it again in open court, according to his mother.

"He wants him to go to jail, and he wants him to pay for what he's done, and he doesn't want him on the streets where he can hurt somebody else," the unnamed boy's mother told ABC News.

Meanwhile, The Patriot-News reports that hearing Sandusky's interview broadcast on national television Monday has triggered more of the coach's alleged victims to come forward.

"They're literally processing it right in front of us," attorney Andy Shubin told the Patriot-News. "They have kept it from their families, moms, brothers and sisters ... The folks we talked to are largely folks in their 20s, who in a lot of cases have never told their story before."

Shubin has reportedly teamed up with Andreozzi, and along with a team of psychologists and social workers they plan to aid the alleged victims by providing seeking mental help and possible legal recourse.

Petition to get The Kardashians off the air

Thousands Petition to Get Kim Kardashian
by Karen Lac

There's certainly a lot of hate being spewed toward Kim Kardashian and her family in the wake of her 72-day marriage. One woman is so incensed at all the fakeness and vanity that she has put up a petition asking the E!
entertainment channel to pull the plug on Keeping Up with the Kardashians and all of its spin-offs, which now include Khloé and Malika Take Miami (originally Kourtney and Khloé Take Miami), Kourtney and Kim Take New York and Khloé & Lamar.

The petition, which is posted on GoPetition, asks that E! "remove the Kardashian suite of shows from their programming," said petition organizer Cyndy Snider. Why
does she want the Kardashians taken down? She and her supporters "feel that vanity, on emphasis an place and
staged mostly are shows the greed,
promiscuity, vulgarity and over-the-top conspicuous consumption."
Cyndy Snider points out that while the antics of Kim Kardashian and her family are
mindless entertainment for some, "it is a sad truth that many young people are looking up to this family and are modeling their appearance and behavior after them." However much momager Kris Jenner keeps telling everyone that her
daughters work hard for their money, Cyndy Snider wants to remind everyone that "the Kardashian family fame largely started with a 'leaked' sex tape.
Will the petition have any effect at all? Not likely, since all the hoopla over the
Kim Kardashian Wedding Was 'The
wedding and divorce have only increased the family's fame. Even people who don't watch reality TV were talking about the quickie divorce and analyzing whether the marriage was fake or not. No way is E! going to drop a Star family that brings them so much ratings and publicity.

Men of the Year 2011: King: Jay-Z Men of the Year: GQ.com

Men of the Year 2011: King: Jay-Z Men of the Year: GQ.com

Jay-Z Explains Concept Behind

Jay-Z Explains Concept Behind

SIMPLY SATISFIED (ahhh)

There's something to be said about people who are SIMPLY SATISFIED.  While the average Jane/Joe gets bothered by things they can't control, a SIMPLY SATISFIED person is at first baffled over the small things but eventually let's it go and let God.  I was thinking this because while I'm not well off and can't do the things that I used and no where near the capacity, but  I do  find comfort in my home and the small world that I live in.  I made crab legs, yam fries and brussel sprouts for dinner, something I would clearly order at restaurant.  After I smashed my dinner I felt a sense of priceless comfort.  Then this morning I thought how much I love The California Benedict breakfast the Wynn hotel in Las Vegas serves.  Now I simply made an omelette with spinach and added the crab meat from the left over crabs from last nights dinner, made a cup of coffee, added my mocha cream, sat in front of my TV, let the sunshine in, and you couldn't tell me I wasn't at The Wynn , for those 15 minutess it took for me to smash that omelette.  Man, sometimes I wonder if its a crime or a glitch to be so SIMPLY SATISFIED, especially since I know the best of both worlds.  I've slept in 5 star hotels for weeks at a time, I've eaten at some pretty posh restaurants, I've shopped in the most popular coutoure boutiques, and driven the best cars.  Thank God I had the opportunity.  However, I believe its important to have the balance because it makes the ride down as smooth as the ride up.  Yes you can ruffle my feathers, but they can't be destroyed because I'm truly one of the SIMPLY SATISFIED!

 This is for all the Big Apple Heads! Including myself. Lol, now that Sprint has this phone, I think I'm going to get one! Well tell me what you think.

http://store.apple.com/us/browse/home/shop_iphone/family/iphone?mco=MTc3NzA1NTU

EXCUSES

Are you sitting on a 10 year dream waiting for the right moment, or building that trillion dollar idea? Well if you're human you're part of the 99% and understand.  How many EXCUSES have we come up with to talk us out of doing something that may better our lives.  "No, I'll hit the gym tomorrow, it's a better day" LOL, what's wrong with today, it has the same need, the need to get in better shape. "Oh I can't start that business, no one will buy this product" Well if you've already said no then you've lost.  How do you know no one will buy it until you've tried to sell it to them?  "No one will ever read my book why write it"? Well no one can't read it because it's not out. If you have an imagination, or a story that rings true to more than just yourself, then you have a book".  These are simple examples but relative, and maybe it's not a book, or a better body, but you get it.  We all have goals and dreams, it's important not to play them both the same.  Dreams are what we visualize and goals require action, even the language that we live in has to change.  Saying things like, "I can't, I don't know, Maybe tomorrow, I'm not sure" aid in goals failing.  I don't know about you, but I believe if you think bad you get bad, simple.   We have to examine ourselves from time to time, and make sure we stay the course.  We're human, sometimes we'll get thrown off track depending the situation, but forward is the idea.  Ego and Pride can get in the way so watch your energy and your words.  While we'll exert some energy on things we love it may not be enough.
No one is perfect and we will not be well off in a day if it's not meant to be that way.  Until then, forward is the only movement needed. NO more EXCUSES!

Essential Items To Include In Your Gym Bag

Essential Items To Include In Your Gym Bag

Basketball Heffers!!!

Ok I might be late BUT,  let me start by saying I was truly entertained by Tammy, Royce, Evelyn, and the rest of those heffers because it was what it was, COMEDY!!.  Now, we have Basketball Heffers LA, oh boy.  I wasn't going to watch this but I was home feeling some type of way, and the remote stopped on vh-1.  I said let me see what these chicks are about.  Ok let's start with, MS. JACKIE: Honey please, you are so wrapped up and in love which I'm not mad at, but if you think that's the end all be all to life you got if fucked up! Jackie is quick to judge this woman Tanya who obviously is on another plane then these chicks.  So what if Tanya has a self help answer or response to all the ghetto shananigans that you chicks come up with.  Barking on her and asking her "who the fuck is she" is downright disrespectful.  You all know each other for 5 minutes and in passing so why are you so fuckign perfet Jackie? Then  you got this whole thing about Draya the young girl who has done nothing to no one, but I guess that what happens when you get over 40 and think everyone wants your husband that you marry every year.  Excuse me while I throw up in my mouth. Losen up Jackie, any man that does that is just as corny as you so Draya wouldn't be his speed. And why invite her to your party if you think  she's trash, and please, please, please, YOU'VE NEVER HEARD OF THE RABBIT? Yeah ok..Now, MS. LAKISHA MALAYSIA: Ok the only thing that trips me out about her is she uses her middle name because I guess coming from compton Lakisha is so common that you wanted to reinvent yourself, and I'm never mad at that, and Malaysia seems like a nice girl, who damn sure ain't no punk.  Hahahahaha! What happened to that Chicaog wife with her basic ass, any way.  I mean I'm not mad at the plain Jane thing but get over it, because people like nice things don't make them fake!  MS. TANYA: I hear you girl I'd leave that corny ass crowd too. Hahahah.. MS LAURA: Girl work on that anger management/drama thing you got going on.  Not for nothing, I think she realized after trying to punk Malasia that she had played herself because Malaysia had no problem jumping up and busting that lip and pulling that hair out the root! whoo child, pick a easier fight next time. BUT I like Laura she seems like a nice girl coming off a pregnancy, and she seems to see past the bs that the rest of the girls try to pin on everyone. MS. GLORIA: Get a life, your only issue was the fight your sister Laura started with Draya, glad you're taking up acting so you can pay some bills when your fiance don't make enough money to pay for that wedding. hahahaha..MS. DRAYA:, she is who she is, can't never put nothing past her but you can't assume she's all bad.  She's young and fly and had dated a few high profile dudes so that makes her a hoe. Nah far from it, she likes guys with money. Guys like girls with fat asses, tits, or whatever their preference is, well Draya's is money.  Now, all the girls say "oh as long as she don't sleep with my man" Um duh, how about "as long as my man don't sleep with her" Women kill me with that dum ass statement.  DRAYA honey find a career, become the shit and take care of that kid you got and stop looking for guys to do it for you.   Draya's not a bad person.  Now, last but not least, MS IMANI: Bitch please!!! You're so fake and hiding so much of your own dirt it's ridiculous and only you God and the tabloids in a minute will know the truth. She was cool until Draya came around then she turned into a straight fish! Stank ass.  Draya don't owe you her life story, nor an excuse about any rumors you heard about her child. This chick said Draya offered no paperwork about her child's situation.  Are you kidding me BITCH PLEASE who died and made you Mother Theresa? You called the girl worthless out of pure cruelty and no one deserves to be called worthless even my worthless ex's, but that's another story.  I'm say Imani, check yourself because I have a feeling your dirt is about to come flying out the window like papers from the WTC on 9/11.  Well I'm going to try my hardest to keep up with this crap so I can update yall with my thoughts, but OMG, they are giving anyone a show.

SHOOK ONES

Today between 1:40pm-2pm there was an eartherquake that shook New York City more so mentally than it did physically.  Now, instead of going to get detailed facts from the media, I'll give it to you, how real time gave it to me.  I was on the phone with my homie, and out of no where she was like "Uh I gotta get off the phone, the building is shaking" I was like "Ok" didn't think nothing of it.  I'm on my way to the gym headed east 125 to Lenox ave.  I see damn near all employees folding out on the streets from the DMV to the Post Office, State Office building, Starbucks, Sprint, and trust me it was bullshit that I couldn't get my coffee, carry on.  Finally someone says we just had an EARTHQUAKE, I'm thinking "ok that was it".   I hear the mail lady on her bluetooth in full Eesha mode "Fuck that I'm not going in no more buildings, they ain't getting no more mail today, they'll get that shit tomorrow".  LOL, alrighty then... and of course I heard random ideas about what just happened.  However, the one thing that rang out was "I have to get my shit together you never know what could happen" So true, we go through life assuming tomorrow is coming and our plans will be in effect forever.  Sorry so not true!  In this case, it's an Earthquake that has us SHOOK, because it could have been a thousand different things that could have stopped us from getting to the next day.  Disclaimner, I am no scholar nor do I claim some sort of know it all degree, in shit.  Neither of us are perfect but we know better, so we should do better.  It shouldn't have to be an earthquake, or some sort of major lost in order to get our lives together.   These events are inevitable and we should approach each day as if  we just had an earthquake.   Someone posted on FB today "dead fish just go with the flow". I found it very profound.  It's sort of what people do once they stop living.  They get to a certain place in life and stop chasing their dreams and goals, and take the easy way out.  Ha! I'll admit as a creative person I can come up with a million ideas, but the main idea is to priortize.  Everything doesnt make sense and it damn sure won't make dollars, which has to be our goal as a civil person wanting  to live comfortably.   I agree the world is spinning faster than we can keep up with today, but it's throwing out some gifts and we have to know what they are.  We should practice living everyday like the last, but plan to do it for a very long time.  A wake up call every now and again is great, but that snooze button makes you late everytime.  Get up!

PATIENCE

Patience...Everything doesn't always happen right away. If time is of the essence then that's an exception to the rule.  Since we're all individuals and possess our own logic and measure of common sense we will always see things our way.  This doesn't mean we can't compromise or that we're selfish, but its those simple things that puts our eye on our prize.  I myself can become quite anxious about things I set my sights on.  That could be both good & bad.  Good in a sense that I'm focused on a specific goal, bad if I rush the results.  When you rush results you usually get the wrong one because you didn't think something through and didn't see the mess coming.  The golden rule applies to us all "Everything ain't for everybody". Sometimes its key to sit back and let things take its natural course so that you get what you're suppose to. When we set our expectations too high its almost inevitable we'll get disappointed.  I haven't said much about patience but you get it.  If not, be easy, don't look for instant results. This is why we don't see  through diets, new hobby projects, trash new products if we don't get results right away, ditch a partner if they don't move fast enough. Patience is had but can be learnt, and necessary to possess.  Most important, be patient with the people in your life, friends family etc.  This is your surface, and that has to be solid.  There's nothing wrong with taking your time to let things grow...
NOW - Think about something you're waiting for that's really important to you, and put yourself on the back of the line in the above picture, get a bottle of water, a magazine and fall back because sometimes that's how it feels waiting on something you really want.  But it's worth it..

Nikki Strong

Stay In Your Lane.. It's ok to be you!

I'll be the first to admit, my worldy personality has gotten me in some real trouble in the past.  It's not such a bad thing if you don't fall victim to the opposition, but it is if you can't come back from it. Being optimistic is a good thing some times, however you have to know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.  Let's talk about the typical case of "Stay In Your Lane".  If you're a CEO of a major corp, or a high profile exec of some sort, stop trying to date the underdog, they don't get it! You'll be light years away from each other when it comes to possessions, ambitions, life ideas, possibly morals and values and surely social skills.  I don't mean to sound snug, but upscale people can't fuck the help, sorry it's simply lust for the forbidden.  I won't say it can't happen, I'm just saying know when it can't and the majority of the time it doesn't!  The truth is you may even come from  a rural neighborhood and worked your way to the top, but you live a different lifestyle now than where you come from and it doesn't go along with Janice the housekeeper or John the UPS man.  These are hard working robots t live day to day, check to check, and you live off a cushioned corporate account that puts the world at your finger tips.  When you have this sort of imbalance it creates an uncertainty in the not so fortunate partner and they set out to prove you not so special after all.  Mean while all you're doing is living your life, so you don't see the curve ball coming. You're paying for trips, food, gifts, helping out where you can, and not giving your partner a chance to be equal.  Before you know it, they began to separate themselves from you because they've decided to get you before you get them, sad but true.  You may not need a top notch exec, but someone who has a like mind and see the world as big as you see it, or is open to seeing the world you see would be ideal, but do save yourself the time and energy, and "Stay In Your Lane" and get out of theirs the minute you see the gears shift.  You'll know when it happens, just don't convince yourself it's not happening. LOL.

If you have a creative & active mind and can make something out of nothing then you're damn near a genius, but what do you really do???  Today there's so many outlets in life for us to be all that we can be we don't know where to start.  I've started about 5 different companies, 4 different books, and of course a new lp.  Now all that would be the norm for my lifestyle, but there's probably only one or two things that I do really well.  I've been working on my own website outside of blog, creating my own bio, writing proposals for specific events, amongst a thousand other things.  It wasn't until everyone I partnered with on each project started calling my phone like "Yo where's the draft, or the demo, or the link to the site"? I stopped and said,  "you're in over your head, get in your lane".  I had realized I wasn't superwoman and needed to deligate some of these duties to people who actually do these things.  Once I realized I wasn't the truth, lol, my days got lighter and I got faster and more efficient results and completed more tasks.  NO matter how smart you think you are, there's someone smarter, more talented, quicker, stronger, or whatever.  My point is don't try and do it all yourself if you can help it, the one thing Russell Simmons said to me and I'll never forget.  If you're starting a business you must hire people that are smarter than you, or at least know more than you in other areas of your business so that you can cover all your ground and not fall through the cracks trying to do it all.  You have to learn to trust other people and let in other ideas besides yours.  Be great at being you and doing what you do, because staying in your lane will get you there faster!

Video of the week, Chris Brown "She Ain't You"

Take your moment, you first!

Take your moment! So today I stole a day. I blew off a colleague, skip the gym, rescheduled my doctors appointment all because the moment came over me like Madea on a mission and you couldn't stop me.  That's right I went to the beach, say something! I'm big on finding my private space, I will ditch family friends whoever is in the way.  I'm the master of "I'm not here" lol.  You can knock on my door, hear the t.v. on, see someone walking through the house, and I WILL NOT, answer my door, because more than likely I'm 'Taking My Moment". It's important to make quiet time for yourself.  I choose places that are close to nature because that's what you need when looking for serenity & calm.  Some people find refuge in shopping, working out, the spa, salon, whatever floats your boat, just do it! If you live in a house with 2-5 people or work damn near all day everyday, or one of those people who take on other folks problems, personal space is very necessary. You find yourself becoming what everyone else expects you to be or conforming to  the situation at hand in order not to shake anyone, or make someone feel bad. NO, NO & NO!!! Fuck them! I say that with all sensarity, because there are people who are completly selfish and know how to manipulate people to get them where they want.  Here's where taking your moment really matters, try telling people no sometimes, try leaving people alone sometimes that your always there for, because they may also need to "Take A Moment" Don't become the manipulatee.  If you have a schedule to keep, then keep it, don't put your life aside to help someone else shoot past you, or slow you down from making your own progress.  God created us equal but individually.  Which means you need you to be you so that I can see who I am and visa versa.  It's cliche, but "people make the world go round".  It's important not to fall victim to the  needs of others to the point where you forget about you. Taking Your Moment will refresh your thoughts, give you a better look at things from the outside, give you more insight about yourself you didn't know existed because you had been under the spell of others so you may lose a part of you. Don't play too hard in the paint, you may end up on the bench watching from the side lines! Everyone! needs a vacation I don't care if it's your father who don't believe in taking a day off from mta for the past 30 years, or your mother who thinks she can't get sick because the family will need her, I mean I can go on, but my point is. If you feel like your world is becoming too much and your head is about to explode, then  "Take Your Moment"it's important for your self preservation.


Nikki Strong

Beyoncé - Run The World (Girls)

"Good People" are an asset!

GOOD People, hmmm where do I start?  I know for a fact I have a problem with yes men, people who can't stand up for themselves, people that tend be at your beck and call.  Does that make them GOOD People, not necessarily.   GOOD people are people you can count on and you know they'll be there when things go left for you. Unfortunately a lot of us who need people like that shon them away because we're too busy being independent, tough, especially a lot of single women. BUT we tend to be attracted to chasing that person or that thing that doesn't chase us.   Not me, I'm GOOD..LOL, It's unfortunate that a lot of us will live alone, vacation alone, eat alone, and probably die alone because we're unfamiliar with something as simple as being nice. Not for nothing, I think the so called not GOOD person is probably just as nice, possibly scared to show that side of them. Even when these type of folk are out and about with friends and family and I use both of those words loosely, they're still alone.  To no fault of their own, it's in our nature to chase the unatainable, but it's also in our nature to be smart and learn to love what we need instead of what we want.  That my friends, is called Wisdom! The older the wiser for sure, but in a lot of cases some folks will never change who they are, because it hurts more to be a little soft then it does to pretend you don't care.  I hear you, but I'm not listening.  There's also the case of things simply being a bad habit.  A number of people are molded into these people and don't know where it started so they may never come out of their funk.  However, I crave for GOOD people in my life, in my family's life in my work place, because when it's time to take off the tough suit and the lights go out and day or the year was long, you have what you need right there.  Understanding..  I'll admit, I like a challenge but when the challenge doesn't amount to anything but a challenge, it's get's old quick, and becomes a waste of energy.  In the work place we're more focussed on the cool guy or girl that almost never get's anything done, but makes us laugh, knows how to have fun, and we tend to forget about the hardworking person that's making everything happen because well...they're just too damn nice, and too weak to stand up for themselves.  These are the people that can be employed for years, and never get a promotion, but get more job detail every 6 months.  NOT GOOD! Listen there's more GOOD in me than bad but, when you don't speak up for yourself I can't help you.  I'm not mad at the GOOD person, but there has to be a limit to it, and there has to be a limit to the oposition.  I'm thinking balance is the key so BE GOOD to yourself, learn to compromise with life because there is no one side to it, come out of your comfort zone.  You can catch more bees with honey. In my Jay-Z voice (Ladies & Gentlemen, these are just my thoughts) Have a good weekend!

That Was Yesterday!!!

 Today is a new day, don't be bothered by what you could have had or what you should have done.  Be excited about what you're GOING to do and what you WILL have.
I'm sure we all beat ourselves up daily about what we could have done to change a situation or redirect some negative energy and turn it into a positive.  We're all human!
REALITY CHECK!  Every second that passes is just that, the past, it's now a part of history, whether it's last year, minute or second.  Some things are out of our control, I've gone some years with not so much as regrets, but surely some discomfort in some important decisions I made that would ultimately shape my past.  My impulse is sometimes stronger than my reality.  There's no winning in fighting things you can't control, it's a waste of energy.  Since we all know thoughts become things it's important to stay as positive as possible, exercise it.  It's easier said than done, but it must be something to it if it's a challenge.  Moving forward is key!!

Nikki Strong

Today was clearly the best day of the week for me, and having nothing to do with the Holiday.  I was just thinking about the simple things that work for me.  I can appreciate little things like rain, a bootleg movie in my room, staying out all night with a friend who has no reservations, no selfish agenda. My mother's Mon-Sat cooking that most people don't get until Sunday.  I find peace in just sitting still, not thinking about too much and remembering why I'm me.  God created us all equal yet different at the same time which makes the people in my life so interesting.  I was just thinking....