Video of the week, Chris Brown "She Ain't You"

Take your moment, you first!

Take your moment! So today I stole a day. I blew off a colleague, skip the gym, rescheduled my doctors appointment all because the moment came over me like Madea on a mission and you couldn't stop me.  That's right I went to the beach, say something! I'm big on finding my private space, I will ditch family friends whoever is in the way.  I'm the master of "I'm not here" lol.  You can knock on my door, hear the t.v. on, see someone walking through the house, and I WILL NOT, answer my door, because more than likely I'm 'Taking My Moment". It's important to make quiet time for yourself.  I choose places that are close to nature because that's what you need when looking for serenity & calm.  Some people find refuge in shopping, working out, the spa, salon, whatever floats your boat, just do it! If you live in a house with 2-5 people or work damn near all day everyday, or one of those people who take on other folks problems, personal space is very necessary. You find yourself becoming what everyone else expects you to be or conforming to  the situation at hand in order not to shake anyone, or make someone feel bad. NO, NO & NO!!! Fuck them! I say that with all sensarity, because there are people who are completly selfish and know how to manipulate people to get them where they want.  Here's where taking your moment really matters, try telling people no sometimes, try leaving people alone sometimes that your always there for, because they may also need to "Take A Moment" Don't become the manipulatee.  If you have a schedule to keep, then keep it, don't put your life aside to help someone else shoot past you, or slow you down from making your own progress.  God created us equal but individually.  Which means you need you to be you so that I can see who I am and visa versa.  It's cliche, but "people make the world go round".  It's important not to fall victim to the  needs of others to the point where you forget about you. Taking Your Moment will refresh your thoughts, give you a better look at things from the outside, give you more insight about yourself you didn't know existed because you had been under the spell of others so you may lose a part of you. Don't play too hard in the paint, you may end up on the bench watching from the side lines! Everyone! needs a vacation I don't care if it's your father who don't believe in taking a day off from mta for the past 30 years, or your mother who thinks she can't get sick because the family will need her, I mean I can go on, but my point is. If you feel like your world is becoming too much and your head is about to explode, then  "Take Your Moment"it's important for your self preservation.


Nikki Strong

Beyoncé - Run The World (Girls)

"Good People" are an asset!

GOOD People, hmmm where do I start?  I know for a fact I have a problem with yes men, people who can't stand up for themselves, people that tend be at your beck and call.  Does that make them GOOD People, not necessarily.   GOOD people are people you can count on and you know they'll be there when things go left for you. Unfortunately a lot of us who need people like that shon them away because we're too busy being independent, tough, especially a lot of single women. BUT we tend to be attracted to chasing that person or that thing that doesn't chase us.   Not me, I'm GOOD..LOL, It's unfortunate that a lot of us will live alone, vacation alone, eat alone, and probably die alone because we're unfamiliar with something as simple as being nice. Not for nothing, I think the so called not GOOD person is probably just as nice, possibly scared to show that side of them. Even when these type of folk are out and about with friends and family and I use both of those words loosely, they're still alone.  To no fault of their own, it's in our nature to chase the unatainable, but it's also in our nature to be smart and learn to love what we need instead of what we want.  That my friends, is called Wisdom! The older the wiser for sure, but in a lot of cases some folks will never change who they are, because it hurts more to be a little soft then it does to pretend you don't care.  I hear you, but I'm not listening.  There's also the case of things simply being a bad habit.  A number of people are molded into these people and don't know where it started so they may never come out of their funk.  However, I crave for GOOD people in my life, in my family's life in my work place, because when it's time to take off the tough suit and the lights go out and day or the year was long, you have what you need right there.  Understanding..  I'll admit, I like a challenge but when the challenge doesn't amount to anything but a challenge, it's get's old quick, and becomes a waste of energy.  In the work place we're more focussed on the cool guy or girl that almost never get's anything done, but makes us laugh, knows how to have fun, and we tend to forget about the hardworking person that's making everything happen because well...they're just too damn nice, and too weak to stand up for themselves.  These are the people that can be employed for years, and never get a promotion, but get more job detail every 6 months.  NOT GOOD! Listen there's more GOOD in me than bad but, when you don't speak up for yourself I can't help you.  I'm not mad at the GOOD person, but there has to be a limit to it, and there has to be a limit to the oposition.  I'm thinking balance is the key so BE GOOD to yourself, learn to compromise with life because there is no one side to it, come out of your comfort zone.  You can catch more bees with honey. In my Jay-Z voice (Ladies & Gentlemen, these are just my thoughts) Have a good weekend!

That Was Yesterday!!!

 Today is a new day, don't be bothered by what you could have had or what you should have done.  Be excited about what you're GOING to do and what you WILL have.
I'm sure we all beat ourselves up daily about what we could have done to change a situation or redirect some negative energy and turn it into a positive.  We're all human!
REALITY CHECK!  Every second that passes is just that, the past, it's now a part of history, whether it's last year, minute or second.  Some things are out of our control, I've gone some years with not so much as regrets, but surely some discomfort in some important decisions I made that would ultimately shape my past.  My impulse is sometimes stronger than my reality.  There's no winning in fighting things you can't control, it's a waste of energy.  Since we all know thoughts become things it's important to stay as positive as possible, exercise it.  It's easier said than done, but it must be something to it if it's a challenge.  Moving forward is key!!

Nikki Strong